Perchance you want to test out butt plugs. Perhaps you would you like to try out other vulva-owners. Perhaps you wish to invite a 3rd person into your room. Because maintaining one thing a key produces a sense of pity or wrong-doing, merely conversing with a pal about this will allow you to forget about pity and normalize your desires.

A pal can additionally help hold you accountable to those desires and interests. They might sign in on you in some months to see if you’ve made any “progress” on your desires, discovered any longer about your intimate interest, or chatted to your spouse about this.